What I Need and What I Want

I want to know what I did wrong. You have said that many times, right? The reality is, what you need to know is not what you want to know.

Let me explain further. You will ask someone in your quick contact list an opinion over an issue that is bugging you. Maybe you did something that in your opinion, it is justified, but the repercussion you received was not to your expectation.

When they explain what you had done wrong, you are disappointed that they are not agreeing with your actions. You end the call and reach out to someone else. This may go on for a few times, and until you get someone on your quick contact list to partially agree with you. You just want to hear them saying,” I agree with what you had done but.…”.

Quick Contact List
These are the people that strikes in your thought,
to call first or meet them when you are having an issue.
Maximus @ MaximusPrimo.com

You see, your mind is preprogrammed by yourself to only hear the answers to your liking. When the sentence goes on with ‘but’, your mind starts to go blank and you suddenly suffer from hearing loss. You are now contending so seek someone agrees with you. This is what I call a Preconceived Action. You already have an opinion formed, before the actual truth that could have helped you to make amends.

Generally, I find most people having difficulty to say,” I am sorry ”. They suffer from psychological lockjaw, heart starts fibrillating like in Korean dramas. You find them holding their chest as if they are have a heart attack. Some can even fake a faint, like in Tom and Jerry cartoon. They just find it so difficult to acknowledge their mistakes.

Positive Attitude leads you out of these so-called symptoms. You did something that in your heart and mind, find it uncomfortable and need to talk to someone about it. You will be open to listen to alternate opinions. In motivational approach, it can be compared to ‘Thinking Out of the Box’. Positive Attitude gives you the strength to reconstruct yourself in areas where you are weak, and provides you the courage to face the truth.

For example, if you are in a meeting, lost your temper in the spur of the moment. During the next meeting, you start by saying, “ My friends, I am sorry. I lost myself for a moment in the last meeting due to my pent-up frustration, but that did not justify my actions. I am truly sorry and I will continuously work to improve myself and this trusted team ”.

It is not that difficult, right? It is really not that difficult at all. Remember, its only your attitude. If you keep yourself in good disposition, you will naturally ‘infect’ everyone around you. They will admire your inherent qualities of good character and mind. Do not bother about the naysayers. Down the road, they too will be ‘infected’ with your Positive Attitude. Like I have said many of times, light up someone’s life and be a beacon always.

I have capitalized Positive Attitude in my writings, so that when you keep on reading it, you will begin to emulate it. I know you can, you have the courage to do so.