The gift of having fingers is that you can point to any directions when you make mistakes except yourself. Its non-condoning responds to accept responsibility and find every possible reason to blame someone.
To remove negativity within you, start to list it down. Ask your subordinates and peers, family and friends, what they sincerely feel about you. Tell them to be constructive. Say that you are evaluating yourself and wish to overcome some barriers that you have intentionally ignored, even when someone was kind enough to point it out to you. Why? You became immediately defensive. That’s why!
It’s like Newton’s Third Law of Motion; every action has an opposite and equal reaction. I tell you that you made a mistake, you in defense say ” I did not “. You don’t want to take responsibility.
Taking responsibility is when you ask the person what was your mistake. Ask them to show how it can be rectified based on their opinion. Analyze the answers given. Ask for clarification, if you do not understand. Don’t just shake your head in acknowledgement and to avoid embarrassment.
What was done, is done. Its your courage to learn and be upfront. When you portray this Positive Attitude, you gain more respect and admiration. Acknowledging your mistakes really takes a lot of courage, and it also shows you want to be a better person.
Confront yourself before confronting others. Once a month, do a self-audit. Take a one to two hours in your own private space and write down what you did wrong. This is why I also recommended a Time Planner to you. Allocate one section saying, ‘Self-Improvements’ where you take short notes of incidents, moments and situations that you acted or reacted in a manner that was not appropriate. I don’t need to define or give you examples of these situations; you clearly know them because your conscious self is very aware of these weaknesses.
Highlight three major issues that you have seen requiring crucial changes. Now, visualize the changes required within you with its positive outcome. You are framing yourself into Positive Attitude by your visualization. Take this amazing image to your Meditation! You need to reinforce it. In meditation, you find the ability to reach your inner self and subconscious mind. It will trigger the brain to capture and store this image.
When you start the next day onwards, for one week continuously, do these mental imaging for self-corrections and measure your results. You can see changes all around if you put your heart and mind to it. I wish you continuous successes.
A helping hand is out there. Make better of yourself.
Maximus @ MaximusPrimo.com
