How to Forgive Yourself

After reading ‘What I Need and What I Want‘ blog, my sister who lives in Auckland, wrote to me and suggested that ‘I am sorry’, is also applicable to own self. She said by looking in the mirror, apologizing and forgiving oneself is a chapter on its own that I should write about. I agree with her. So, here goes.

If you have been reading from previous blogs, you would have noticed that I continuously talked about Positive Attitude.

When you wake up, what do you do first? Do you feel all refreshed or do you sulk that it’s going to be another boring day? With this current Covid19 pandemic that seems to be relentless, are you feeling demotivated staying and working from home? Is there something that you want to do, that can make you feel happier?

Let me start with your mornings. If you did meditate before going to sleep, then you had programmed your mind and body to receive the morning with a great start. That is a hidden clue that I am sharing with you. If you wake up and plan to meditate after a fresh bath, then you are preparing for the day ahead. It is your option to choose and help you progress accordingly.

In both instances, you will also start by reflecting your day before, what you have done and what you need to do. Duly noted, if you had erred in some way, you will need to find a solution to resolve it as soon as possible. We do make mistakes, but to repeat the same again is being foolish and ignorant. You do not need to punish yourself for what you have done, hopefully you did not cause great harm to anyone.

So, with baggage loaded in your thoughts, how will it be possible for you to really wake up in the morning and feel that the day is going to be better than before. You will need to unload it all. This is why, the benefit of meditating before you go to sleep helps. You need to wake up and not carry the burden of unnecessary thoughts.

Now that you have learnt the tools on how to forgive yourself, forgive for the right cause. I repeat, ‘for the right cause’.

You cannot be forgiving yourself daily when you go out to make life difficult for others and in the process, be contended that you have done a great job. It will become a burden to you in due time. You mind, heart and body will be dragging each other so much that you will feel heavier by the day, weaker by the hour and timid to the slightest sound.

To overcome preconceived actions, you must overcome yourself. Stand in front of a mirror, look at yourself and say,” I forgive myself for the mistakes I have made. I am aware of them and will not repeat them. I will be a better person. I will be a beacon to myself and others too ”. Do this for the first three mornings and be over with it.

The continuous days, you repeat after me, “ I will be a beacon to myself and others too ”. If there is any mantra that you need to succeed, start with this first. It will be the only one you need in reality, because when the light is bright within you, everything around you will light up the same. That is hidden secret on how to forgive yourself.