Fatal Attraction of the 2nd Kind

In ufology, close encounter of the second kind mean a UFO event in which a physical effect is alleged. This may relate to a person having experienced physiological effects, discomfort and some form of injuries that have occurred in their body.

‘Fatal Attraction of the 2^nd Kind’, on the other hand (from my definition), is a unique phenomenon where people are attracted to someone who is violent, sexually aggressive, a predator and a popular figure. In fact, there are many cases where people correspond with hard core convicts in prisons, falling in love with them and crucify themselves to ultimate commitment in such relationship.

This type of attraction also relates to a known psychological paraphilia. Hybristophilia is a nature where the person has sexual interest and attraction to those who commit crimes. It is sometimes revered as Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome. Hybristophilia seems to provoke the attraction towards people with personality traits of psychopathy, narcissism and machiavellianism. This combination of traits is also known as ‘The Dark Triad’ in applied psychology.

There are many legal cases where women decided to sue popular figures for damages. These women claim circumstances where they were coerced, manipulated, threatened and even put with fear of God as a repercussion, should they voice out their negative experiences to the public or the authorities. Somehow, after a decade or more, they decide to go after the perpetrator and bring them to justice. Of course, this also means the popular figures are being sued by the millions in damages. It is pointless to sue someone if they are already poor and pauper, right?

Interestingly enough, when I read many of these cases, the profile of the ‘victims’ are quite similar. These women were fans, waited hours to meet these personalities. Their attraction to them is relentless. Rumors may have lingered of the violent nature exuberated by these personalities. Some are known to bond closely with gang-members, for their own protection whilst others are just wild and provocative. Unfortunately, poor judgement of these women brought their own downfall without mercy.

‘Fatal Attraction of the 2^nd Kind’ attracts people to dangerous
characters magnetically. For some apparent reason,
they fall head over heels for them.
Maximus @ MaximusPrimo.com

Here is where you need to realize, if you have any symptoms or behaviors that are similar to the above; clamp all your disc brakes. Stop your negative fantasies now. It takes two hands to clap and make sound. You are not an unwilling victim, as your fatal attraction brought you there in the first place. Although you knew the pot was hot, you decided to place your hand onto it and pick it up from the stove without gloves.

You intentionally became ignorant and paralyzed yourself with mental blindness. Your body perverted yourself sexually, and you went on doing what you blindly though were exiting. It is sometimes said to be the fault of hormones. You fell into the hands of predators, whom by nature are manipulative. They have the advantage over you easily. You are not weakened by them, but by your own willingness to be coerced to their will and fancies gets you there.

For a moment of time, you got yourself manipulated to their pervasive playground. You will be thrown around like a toy, and left behind when a part of it breaks and becomes no longer interesting. By this time, you also have experienced physical and emotional damages, loss of self-respect and living with an immeasurable trauma of being abused.

Time will not be on your side. After one or two decades later, you are still tormented with what has happened. The mental trauma plays images that you had voluntarily partaken in that moment of time. It is a revolving nightmare for you to face daily.

‘Fatal Attraction of the 2^nd Kind’ also happens in common relationship. New couples become attracted to each other physically more than emotional bonding. The wild and exciting times in their discovery of mutual sexual pleasures provoke their interest to try out new things, even some that is deemed dangerous like asphyxia. A short moment of excitement, may have just led to your death or severe injuries to your brain.

Unintellectual as it may sound, the body has its own perverted nature when the mind decides to allow unmanaged exploration of your senses. Sensuality is by no means a negative term, but when you are not able to differentiate what is right and wrong, then it becomes dangerously perverted.

You can be a virtues person, a revered monk or famous personality but if you fail to realize and differentiate your sensuality, you can be tormented mentally and physically. For some, they deviate toward being a closet pervert.

You may ask me if meditation helps. It does if your primary notion in the meditation is to direct you on a path to actuate your mind and body in equilibrium to humanity. Otherwise, when you are meditating, your ability to dissolve away the negativities within your senses will be a false pursuant, because your mind remains pervasive.

This is why, many religious figures were arrested in the past for cases relating to molestation, keeping sex-slaves within their congregation, sodomy and more. These people use the profile of religious devotion, fictitious God and Devil, to subdue the minds of their weak followers. The real evil is present within these people and not around them.

What do you need to do when you are in any one of these circumstances?

1. Don’t get abused: If you are in an abusive marriage or relationship, get out immediately. Once someone abuses you, their hands and mind will never leave you alone. You need to think about the welfare of you and your family.

2. Fatal-attraction: If you are having fatal attraction, seek help from a mental-health professional, where possible. The problem with you is that you will have more reasons on why you want to pursue your impulsive directions, instead of helping yourself. When you are willing talk to someone you know who has a sound mind and good character, give room for yourself to listen carefully. Being adamant is not going to help you move away from your prevailing issues.

3. Have dignity for yourself: Do not offer your body like a pancake sold at a food-truck. Do not give an excuse that you are exploring your life, thus you prevail yourself in terms of experiences that you want to get. It is ok, if you can live with it. Do not come back many years down the road, claiming you had bad experiences with some people in your dormitory when you were pissed drunk.

You knew the consequences that were to happen. After all, you were in your tertiary education and please do not say that your intellectuality was challenged then. You are not a fruit to be plucked from a tree to feed the general public, but the tree that roots itself in great strength. When you value your dignity, people will respect you for who you are.

4. Negative attractions: I have strongly noticed, human nature is more directed to negativity. It seems impulsive, but yet it deviates quickly to such norm. That is why, I have in my earlier blogs, provoked the idea of managing oneself with their Positive Attitude. It is a process, but you will realize when you experience the self-recovery journey, that you are not easily misguided.

5. Dwelling in darkness: If you are amongst someone who is exuberating very dark characters, get away from them immediately. You can be easily sucked in like a vacuum chamber waiting for your presence. Only someone with a strong character in opposite contrast to such dark characters will neutralize them easily. So, be aware of such circumstances prevailing in your surroundings.

6. Perverted-self and meditation: If you are someone perverted in nature, your process of coming out of this confinement is not going to be easy. You need help from a mental-health professional. You may be given some medication to suppress your perverted urge but on the long run, it still is not going to help much.

I can suggest you to opt for isolated meditation, but you need to find a place where your tutor is able to understand your situation first. Be honest and do not go under pretext to seek enlightenment. Unfortunately, some who had pursued this meditative direction, decided to use this opportunity to become a closet-pervert under spiritual clothing.

7. Dietary recuperation with meditation: If you are genuinely seeking to overcome your negative challenges, you will need to start with a proper diet that regulates your impulse. An array of progressive meditation will begin to help your mental and emotional maturity. You will also need exercises that dissipate your negative urges. It will be a challenging task indeed, but it is possible for you to reflect actual changes from within.

8. Blinding paths: Know when to say yes, and when to say no. Do not go around saying yes to everything when you know the outcome is not going to be good for you. It is pointless regretting what has happened to you, when in the first place, you knew the possible outcome. Do not blind yourself when you can see clearly the paths to your personal safety.

9. Temptation rules: Heard of curiosity killed the cat? When you are in pursuit of your curiosity, hypocrisy can be activated when temptation is prevailing itself to you. You will justify everything that is wrong, being right. Recognize this situation and it can be greatly helpful for your all the time.

10. Gift of humanity: Do not waste your intelligence. Be beneficial to yourself and others, where possible. It is a natural gift within you that can be used for your positive advantages and well-being. Reasoning becomes easier when you take a step behind and think before you do anything. Jumping off a cliff with a parachute is better than slipping off to your death whilst taking a selfie.