Deliberation on Self-Diggers

I am becoming very concerned of people who seems to have similar trend of being ‘Self-Diggers’? Who are these people actually? Listen to this analogy of a tortoise and a hermit crab. Both have something similar, being that they carry a hard shell to protect themselves, but having weak spots that easily take them down. If you flip a tortoise, their soft bottom shell becomes a weak spot. Most of the time, it walks around, when it is not afraid to pop the head out, and revert back to the shell when situation becomes challenging or disoriented.

For the hermit crab, it comes out of the shell for a short while, not because it wants to explore the world, but wanting to find another comfortable shell to stay in for a longer time. Both of this nature, is easily reflected in people who have lack of confidence within them. They may have had some past negative experiences, especially being abused by someone or by their partner from a failed relationship.

It had been not an easy journey for them. Their lack of confidence became detrimental to anything they plan to execute. The reason is a very simple answer; they become their own worst enemy, that they end up sabotaging their progressive efforts on their own. Procrastination becomes a normality with ‘Self-Diggers’, although they will insist that they are not.

If you kept up with their progress, you will find the repeated pattern to which they easily regress, whenever changes take place in their normality, especially from their comfort zone. When you confront them, they become consciously aware of their mistakes, and you will hear their assurance in making amendments, but the outcome is not as positively generating as you may expect.

How can you help them, especially when they cower in their self-indulging shame which is actually their personal remorse on their fallback to their negative patterns? They actually need professional help, even if they deny or decline it. Having them to engage with a mental-health professional is highly recommended. They need to commit, to have their dormant negative experiences, that behaves as a setback, be elevated from them.

They require constant assistance to have their confidence built, by acknowledging that they are their own worst enemy. They need to be removed from their hardened repressive shell, acknowledging that this place is not a place of comfort, but a place that regresses them from becoming a better person.

There is no shame in acknowledging who you are.
Be brave and take the first step.
Maximus @ MaximusPrimo.com

I do strongly suggest that if you are one of these ‘Self-Diggers’, find and engage with a mental-health professional. Make a visit, every fortnightly for 8 sessions, then progress to once every three weeks for another 8 sessions. Once you have built-up the confidence well enough, realizing that every negative experiences of yours, are nothing but just an experience in your life-journey. Thereafter, you can schedule your visits once a month for another 12 months.

In total you would be doing two years of professional help that you really require. You may perhaps ask why 24 months period, not any shorter or longer? It is for your own good and conditioning within a specific span of time. After that, you can successfully go autopilot, at your own pace. You can cringe on your expenses but not on your mental health.

In some countries, they have support-groups to share personal experiences, like abusive relationships and more. My only concern is that if you attend meetings to talk about your negative experiences. Without someone to help you providing proper coaching to overcome your issues, you will not progress any better. It will just become an avenue to share your experience with others of the same. In some of these support-groups, you will have programs that offer sponsors who have made dynamic and positive changes in their lives from their regressive pasts. They will be someone who understands yet can firmly provide you the direction for your recovery.

Please remember, mental-health is not a pill-popping cure illness. It is a ‘psychological’ and ‘physiological’ assisted recovery method. You may wonder why physiological? Your mind and body work together as one, no difference in reality. If you are not able to learn how to manage your anger, by simple steps of initiating slow and calm breathing techniques, you will be quick to say no to everything. If you do not learn to meditate, and find balance within your natural vibrations, you will not be able to invoke your self-awareness and self-realization.

The state of your mind relates well within your body too. If you physically take the trouble to exercise, providing cardiovascular improvements, your brain receives enough energy to process and decipher your ‘codes’ to remove negativities and regressive behaviors. You get refreshed and newer ‘codes’ to be progressively embedded, to help you realize that it is not your past that makes you who you are, but your current actions and consequences that come along with it.

Do not carry your own shovel as a tool to remedy your lack of confidence. Do not procrastinate that you are fine and will be able to come out of your shell very soon. You are neither an ostrich, putting the head in the hole to check its eggs nor a porcupine, to spear anyone with your negativities, whenever you feel threatened or discouraged. Lift your chin up, look straight and speak with confidence. No one is going to judge you the way you are judging yourself.

Challenges will always be there, and that’s the reality, that everyone faces. You have what it needs and you need to disassociate yourself from your ‘Demon of Denial’, but firstly, get medical help. Just keep yourself away from any pills to relief or suppress your mental trauma. The medicine that you really need, is to smile, to look at the beautiful nature around you and to live healthily. Once you begin to understand these values, you will find that all the setbacks you had for yourself, was just another negligible experience.