Blinding or Binding Love?

There is an indefinite status of what this is called ‘Love’. Is it a feeling within you, a sense of affection, infatuation, deep admiration or just an illusion? Which of this is true, and which is not? When you say you love any member of your family, is that for who they are, or is that you are getting gratification for what you want, whenever you want it? If you did not receive what is in preference with you, is your love for them getting deprived or lost forever?

The meaning of love says that it is an intense feeling of deep affection. Love is believed to be very contagious too. You are able to spread love amongst people around you, who are in fact, tangibly attracted to your nature of pleasantness. You are someone warm, having a nice disposition, easily approachable and likeable. As a friend, they can share their feelings with you without hesitation. They know, you are ready to open your arms to welcome them close to your chest, whenever they need the assurance that someone is there for them.

As a member of family, you are the warmth of pleasantness. You are sociable, friendly, shows a great deal of amicable reasoning whenever an issue is presented. Most of all, you have reasonable control of your overbearing emotions, anger and resentment. Even if someone had done something wrong, you can forgive and forget. You seem to be the epitome of what love is, someone that is worth the while, to be loved too.

The reality is not as much as what is written. In facing many truths of life, you come across adjustments you made to yourself. Good experiences made you better, and bad ones, if not removed from your memory, creates deep resentment within you. It’s like infiltrated venom of a cobra, spreading rapidly within your bloodstream and reaching your heart. You may not die quickly when resentments start poisoning you, but you surely die slowly within. It becomes very painful, consequentially driving you to seclusion and isolation. You no longer want to share yourself with anyone, even to yourself.

Many people have different experiences in their lifetime. One common thing everyone is able to experience, is looking at what the other person seems to have, perhaps something that you don’t. Funny part is, you are not envious of any of this. They may be surrounded by people with great affection, whilst you seem to be a loner, even when you are in a room full of people. You are living in a different world, over a world that your feet is living on. You just smile, telling yourself it is all, just an illusion.

Perhaps, that is what justifying you for being who you are; the denial of happiness for yourself, as you do not see any more avenue for you to pursue. Every door, seems to be a dead-end, every walk path you take, seems to loop back to the beginning. You are not frustrated, because you have elevated your personal level of self-isolation, to a point that nothing else seems to matter anymore.

Love is blindsiding.
Maximus @ MaximusPrimo.com

You can overwhelm yourself without realizing, or even if you are conscious about it. Many relationships end up in disarray. You are unable to manage and control what you actually feel towards the other person, and you make big blunders in return. It is the ‘Butterfly-Process’. When you are in the state of being a caterpillar, you move across planes of branches, eating as much as you can, consuming what you believe will nurture your next journey.

You begin to live in a cocoon for some time, in the illusion of relationship, that I had mentioned earlier. Over time, you come out as a butterfly, flapping your wings, proudly displaying yourself. Unfortunately, this does not last long, as within a few weeks, the end of life prevails for the butterfly. This metamorphosis is said to be a proses of transformation from an immature form to an adult form, for the butterfly.

For an individual, when you are blindsided by love, you become someone you are really not, but wish to be someone you believe, will make the relationship work. You give false hopes, instead of prevailing your boundaries of your comfort zone. You believe, over time, the person of interest you are approaching, will be able to comprehend your behavior and personality, that you kept under wrap, whilst in your state of relationship.

Be truthful, be clear. Do not falsify yourself, just because you are in a state of infatuation. Do not be blindsided. When you bind yourself like a cocoon, you do not present yourself with the reality of your relationship. Most long-term relationships, whether it is matrimonial, friendship or relationship, remains healthy when both parties are consciously clear in the understanding of each other. When this understanding breakdown, so does the relationship.

So, how do you then establish a long-lasting relationship? Are you able to be someone that the other person hoped you were and by doing so, things will be better? Will you be contended that if you are able to create a stable environment within your present nature for each others comfort, that happiness will be evolving continuously? These questions, I put forward to you, so that you can answer them for yourself.

Love, as much as everyone believes that it is something so valuable and attaching, sometimes, detachment helps. Unbinding yourself will give you a refreshed approach to find who you are from within; your reality. When you realize that what you are missing the affections that makes you a happier person, you will know how to find it. When you look forward to sit around a few friends, whom you have so many common topics to speak about, you find your mind refreshing itself with excitement. Your self-contentment will say, “ I love being around my friends, as I find myself being happy ”.

Be Happy! Understand that love is not what your imagination exposed to in movies, romance novels and being told by someone. It is just an illusion, but humanly possible, is the ability for you to be happy. You will then find yourself being a pleasant person, warm and friendly. If you can fulfill this basic nature of humanly possible task, you can be assured, your life journey will be more comfortable as an experience.