Bullying Never Ends

As long as there is an unwilling victim, an individual bully or a leader of a problematic pack will find their target easily. Bullies come in many versions. Most commonly noted are as physical, mental and emotional bullying. People who are often bullied remains fearful and do not wish to express the problems they face. They are also unable to communicate with anyone, as their ongoing experience is already harrowing enough.

How are we going to resolve the issue of bullying, especially in the workplace? I know I have given you quite a lot of motivation from my blogs. So do not go out and decide to learn martial arts, with the intent to pull a stunt like in the Karate Kid movie. If you really do want to learn martial arts, then do it for your mental and physical well-being.

If you are someone who is undergoing emotional issues, depression and a victim of being bullied, you need firstly to resolve within yourself to move away from the corner of the wall. This also means that you need to build up your courage first. It is not going to be easy doing it all by yourself.

Thus, find someone who you can trust in helping you build up your self-confidence. I would suggest you to learn Muay Thai or any other form of martial arts. It provides you with multi-discipline learning of physical fitness and mental grit. With an experienced tutor, you will also learn special skills based on their personal experiences. This process, if done right, will give you the self-confidence and self-initiative that you need. You will no longer be a pushover and you will begin to gain your self-respect too.

Physical bullies are people who pick on you for many reasons. It is not that you are smaller in size or weaker than them. These types of bullies seem to smell the scent of your fear. They do not do it alone. There will always be a follower or two. They move like a wolf pack, waiting for the next victim to run across.

Their hunger is tormenting others. This is also similar to people who have experienced abusive relationships with their partners. Arguably, the person who is being bullied will indirectly condone to the situation, as they seem to blame themselves for being the cause, and thus giving the bully, all the strength to carry on with their acts without remorse.

Mental and emotional bullies are more popular today,
in the form of cyber bullies.
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As people are so much into their social media presence that they also expose themselves unwittingly to the keyboard warriors. If you are mentally and emotionally tormented with their abuses, you have a simple choice to either ignore them or to deactivate comment sections. In both instances, you need courage to do it and not excuses.

Not forgetting, cancel culture and woke culture are so toxic nowadays, it just does not justify the actual objectives. Everything and anything you say or do are getting twisted and turned unjustly. Both started with a good notion, but ended up somewhere else. Just because you believe in something and it becomes your value, does not mean it must be mine.

For example, if you are a not a vegetarian and do come across someone who is, do you need to force your ideology that being vegetarian is not healthy? If they say that they prefer to remain as vegetarian and has no problem with it, you become annoyed because they are not keeping with your belief system. You go ballistic.

Similarly, many countries, ethnicities, religious and social backgrounds, differ from one another. You just can’t expect everyone to follow your idealism, even if it meant well. The foot print you place in your ground is not going to be same elsewhere. Brute force and intent triggered via woke and cancel cultures will have the possibility to come back to bite the initiators as well. Stop being a bully!

Sexual harassment is also a form of bullying.
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Do not condone sexual gestures as a playful gesture, if you are not comfortable with it. Some people just like to touch others as they are talking. They may not do it with sexual connotative, but if you are uneasy with it, just tell them so. Say to them, “ Hey buddy, can you keep your hands to yourself. I am uncomfortable whenever you touch me as you talk ”.

Sexual harassment can also develop with mixed signals, not that you do it intentionally. Some people may interpret your body language as a signal for them too. If they misread, be upfront. Do not be passive and get yourself entrapped. When someone asks you for a business meeting in their hotel room, it is not a meeting you should go to, no matter what. Always meet in a common ground. It remains professional and also keeping you safe at all time.

How to overcome bullying? There are no quick solutions to eradicate this behavior. Like racism, this has been laced within human evolution time after time. The following are my recommended steps.

Face Your Enemies
The first one is you. Your own lack of self-confidence puts you in this place.

Stand Your Stance
Be firm that you will not tolerate unjust to yourself. If it has been unfair and clearly visible, then you have all the substance to do so.

Find an Anchor Person
You lack courage. You need an initiator. Look for someone who has a strong personality that can help you overcome your issues. Their knowledge can possibly help you with the course of actions you may need to take.

Do Not Let Anyone Hit You
You are not a punching bag. Stop it immediately. If you are afraid, call the Police, because until then, the bully does not know you are serious about the abuse.

Get A Lawyer:
Seek legal advice on what you can do. I know that legal matter is not going to be free, unless you get a lawyer for pro-bono. There are support organizations who are well versed with these issues. Do not feel embarrassed when seeking help. No one can help you unless help yourself first.

Keep History Documented
You may need to keep a record of incidents that took place, where and when, how and why, for example. It will be easier to recall when needed. Now, do not go passive and write journals year after year, giving a title, “ My Life Journey in Fear – How I Was Abused and Still Being Abused ”. This is not going to help at all. Like everything else I say, measure with timeline. Keep it short so that it does not need to accumulate. Put a stop from the beginning!

I hope, by me touching on this subject, if you are experiencing some form of bullying, do not stay quiet.